“The person with the least desire for intimacy always controls intimacy in the relationship…” Dr. David Schnarch
Three questions to ask yourself about your contribution in relationships:
1). What feelings am I afraid to express? To whom? Why?
2). Is it possible that I’m more committed to controlling others reactions rather than being committed to honestly reveling my feelings?
3). Without speaking/stating our feelings (fear, anger, hurt, jealous, worry, discouraged, shame, etc.) how do we expect to have a closer relationship?