As previously stated, I’m posting weekly excerpts from my book, Ragdoll Redeemed: Growing up in the Shadow of Marilyn Monroe, because I wanted a break from the pressure of writing a blog topic. At the same time, I’m not quite ready to completely shut down my blog site. Given this self-imposed dilemma, I’m endeavoring to post educational information that somewhat coincides with my book excerpts.
I can totally relate to the symptoms stated in the following article on Authoritarian Parenting Style.
The “Authoritarian Parenting Style” is an extremely strict form of parenting that expects a child to adhere to rules and regulations set out by the parents with little or no input or communication from the child.
Developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind in her studies based on the dimensions of “Parental Responsiveness” and “Parental Demandingness” conclude that: The authoritarian parenting style is a harsh, rigid emotional climate that is low in parental responsiveness (the nurturing aspect of the child) and high in parental demandingness (control over the child).
~ Open communication is generally not an option in this type of parenting style.
~ Authoritarian parents feel they are the boss and their children should conform to the their demands without question.
~ The rules are expected to be adhered to with no room for negotiation. The consequence of breaking a rule is absolute punishment.
~ Yelling and Spanking of younger children is often resorted to for means of discipline and control over their behavior.
~ High standards of behavior are expected and extreme value is placed on obedience with an indisputable respect for authority.
~ Generally authoritarian parents are not very emotional or affectionate and are often critical of their children if they fail to meet their expectations.
“The Authoritarian Parenting Style”
Following are a few possible effects of this style of parenting
1). Children rarely learn to think on their own
2). They feel pressured to conform
3). They often become socially withdrawn
4). May be very angry, resentful and frustrated
5). Can find it hard to deal with their anger
6). May develop a tendency to act out
7). Develop a fear of failure (do to pressure)
8). Often have a low self esteem
(9). Develop a resentment of authority
The Positive Parenting Centre “Parenthood In America”
The parenting of Adolescents and Adolescence as Parents: A Developmental Contextual Perspective (1998) Richard Lerner,PhDAnita L. Brennan Professor of EducationDirector, Center for Child, Family and Community PartnershipsBoston CollegeAuthors:E. Ree NohClanice Wilson. Web Link: http://parenthood.library.wisc.edu/Lerner/Lerner.html
Baumrind’s General Parenting Styles (Dianna Baumrind 1973)