“Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives.” (Anthony Robbins)
For several years I had envisioned a detailed picture hanging on my bedroom wall. I imagined red flowers, old buildings and the sea beckoning in the background. The image was so real that you would have thought I had actually seen the exact scene somewhere in my travels. As we were remodeling our bedroom, we began a search for something close to the image I held in my mind’s eye, combing through hundreds of on-line – works of art. Then last week, my husband and I walked into Ross’s and viola, there was the precise picture, framed and all. We stood speechless, alternately staring – at the picture and each other.
A few years ago I stopped writing down my New Year’s resolution (goals) because they began to happen faster than I could keep up with them. I am a powerful manifester of dreams, goals and deeply held beliefs. Which brings me to JerryWaxler, therapist, teacher, author, and speaker who graciously wrote a six week commentary about various aspects of my newly published book, Ragdoll Redeemed: Growing up in the Shadow of Marilyn Monroe. This particular post was titled, In Memoirs, Changing Thoughts Reveal the Wisdom of a Lifetime. http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/ragdoll-novotny-3/
Esteemed memoir instructor Jerry Waxler refers to a profound ah-ha moment that I experienced when I “got” that the type of men I chose perfectly reinforced the beliefs I held about myself. I “saw” in a flash, being convinced that I was dim-witted, how every man I attracted to myself repeatedly highlighted my ignorance. Though true I was uneducated and ignorant, I was certainly not unintelligent as I had believed every since high school, when I was diagnosed as borderline retarded.
In his blog, Waxler says, “Out of those explorations, Novotny shares two of the best life-changing ah-has! I have read in a memoir. First she describes the moment she realizes she is responsible for her own actions and their results. She repeats the phrase “cause and effect” to herself over and over as if it’s the first time it occurred to her that her decisions affect the quality of her life. The realization changed her forever.” Waxler
Waxler is absolutely correct when he makes the observation that this awareness changed my life forever because it was the first moment that I understood that I could have some control over my life by changing my beliefs. Writing your life story is a powerful way to examine and uncover long held beliefs that diminish and/or prevent achieving your dreams. The power of beliefs is truly uncanny.