Archives for March 2012


Addict, Co-Addict; A Family Affair

I have been reflecting on the tragedy of having an addiction for the last few chapters, and now I want to turn my attention to those who are in a relationship with an addict, and even more broadly examine the dysfunctional patterns that created through association with addicts. The term “codependency” was originally associated with a person in a relationship with an alcoholic. Over the years, the term has expanded to include any person in a relationship that exhibits dysfunctional patterns of living. Co-addicts learn ways of acting and reacting when relating to an addicted person (similar to those in relationships with someone who is affected by mental illness or is abusive). Living in dysfunctional or traumatic environments sets up a pattern whereby a person’s way of being in the world is contingent upon the behavior of others. This is especially likely to occur if a person is unstable in some way to begin with.


Compassionate Interventions for Addictions

   “Addiction floods in where self-knowledge─and therefore divine knowledge─are missing. To fill the void, we become attached to things of the world that cannot possibly compensate us for the loss of who we are.”Gabor Mate, M

 The focus of my blog, The Faces We Live, is to show my readers the many faces we humans wear. Having many sides to our personalities is what makes us all unique, and is a natural part of being human.

When I started blogging about addictions, I could never have imagined that my daughter would die in the middle of the series—but that is what has inspired me to write about the hungry ghost of addiction.


Is Drinking Affecting Your Relationship?

How do you know if you have a drinking problem? The following are things to consider to see if you might have a drinking problem.


1). When your partner says that he/she is bothered or affected by your drinking.

2). There are consequences resulting from your drinking. For example, are there arguments with your family, a disappointed or angry family member, or regrets about something you did or said at the party? Do you ever go home with someone you don’t know, or promise yourself not to drink so much next time? Are there times when you don’t remember much of the evening?


Addiction Vs. Habit? Which Applies to You?

“It is the nature of desire not to be satisfied, and most human beings live only for the gratification of it.” Aristotle

 When does a habit become an addiction? I have heard it said that with a habit you are in control of your choices, whereas with an addiction you aren’t in control of your choices—but what about a situation in which a habit slides into an addiction?

For example: It may seem like a harmless habit to drink on weekends, but what if it seriously affects your family? What if you say and do things that you would normally never do? Would you call this a habit, or an addiction?