The Faces We Live

Before I begin my next series, I thought I would re-group by writing a summary of my Blog’s purpose. Consistent with the name The Faces we Live, the stories that I write are always about the myriad of roles/parts/sub-personalities and shadow sides that constitute the makeup of every human being. Values, beliefs, feelings, behaviors, roles all contribute to the overall makeup of an individual (not withstanding heredity and certain physical characteristics).

Of course, your parts will differ from mine, but the experience of having parts/roles is fundamental to human nature. No matter the topic or particular series, my intent is always to show examples of our different parts, often conflicting parts. I happen to be using myself and my own experiences as illustrations of how parts can be expressed in the real world because (1) I know myself better than anyone else. (2) It is my blog. I know that every part of myself that I disown, despise or refuse to acknowledge, will become hostile to myself and others thereby perpetuating misery like a cloud of aimless radiation blowing where it will. My hope is that these blog posts will facilitate another path to understanding the me that is me and the you that is you.

“Often we judge our faces to be either good or bad, right or wrong, while failing to recognize the potential of each of them to make us fuller, more balanced human beings.” Virginia Satir

My first five posts concentrated on explicit illustration of parts. I tried to show examples of  interior parts such as the striver part, the inner critic or judge, the bumbler part, the anxious ridden overeater, the part that slides into shame or embarrassment, and parts that want to lash out or project onto others.

My second series focused on femininity. How women who chose to wear makeup experience women who don’t wear makeup and vice versa. However, it was simply another way of illustrating parts and how parts can behave in our culture−for that matter, in every culture. All cultures have a particular set of behaviors, standards and/or beliefs. If you don’t believe me, just try living outside of the norms and see how fast you are ostracized or deemed crazy.

My next blog series is about my journey through protracted cancer treatment. The prospect of death evoked every aspect of my personality, from my most mystical spiritual side to my “sins” of vanity, gluttony, greed (all parts). Death was the consummate challenger of self examination.

The range of what we think and do

is limited by what we fail to notice.

And because we fail to notice

that we fail to notice

there is little we can do

to change

until we notice

how failing to notice

shapes our thoughts and deeds. R.D. Laing

To the degree that each of us is willing to claim our “inner barbarians” with some degree of self-acceptance and compassion, to that exact degree we will stop projecting onto our “enemies”. I want peace on earth and truly it MUST begin with me.

“One acts decisively only in the conviction that all the angels are on one side and all the devils are on the other.” Saul Alinsky

Please, please let us look at the “devil” within. For it is not our shadow (devil) that is intrinsically evil but rather the refusal to acknowledge our shadow that contributes to the collective evil manifested outwardly in prejudice, jealousies, greed and wars.


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  1. Bring on my inner Barbarian…can’t wait to check her out more closely. 😉

    • Hi Chrysalis,

      Great attitude. I haven’t reached the point of loving my inner Barbarian’s but at least I can acknowledge them and try to understand what/who triggers those parts of myself.

      Mona Barbera, author of Bring Yourself to Love says, “If it is intense, it’s your own.” When hurt, anger, resentment or other intense feelings assail us, that feeling is a trailhead into some part of ourselves that we have not healed.

      Thanks for participating in this blog adventure.

      Blessings, dawn

  2. A fascinating approach, Dawn.
    I will re-read this and think hard. Might even make some notes!
    I look forward to your Guest Post on Positve Spin this coming Friday, and also to your series about your cancer experiences and what you found there.
    Warm wishes,

    • Hi Linda,

      Thank you for using the post that I sent you as your guest blogger this Friday. How exciting.

      Knowing that you also have had cancer and are currently blogging about your experiences,
      I am courious about the simularities and differences.

      Looking forward to your guest post one day as well.

      Thanks, dawn

  3. Dawn, Insightful as always. It is important to embrace all of the parts of ourself, and to keep looking around the corners of our psyche for the shadows and the underbelly of our own thoughts and feelings, and then there is also looking into the Great Creator for our belonging. Thanks again for all that you are! Helen

    • Thanks Helen. Nice to walking this path with you. I will doing my first “guest post” on Friday. The site is called, Positive Spin. Wow! At our age, who would of believed it. Dawn

    • Hi Helen,

      It is great to walking this “social media” path with you. I have been invited to guest post this Friday. The site is called, Positive Spin.

      At our age, who would guessed we would be starting new “hobbies”?

      Be well, dawn

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